Last night my date and I decided to "take it to the next level" with bondage. A quick trip to the hardware store and we were ready to roll. I say "take it to the next level" because I don't let just anyone tie me up. I have to know you pretty well before you learn my safe word.

A lot of people think bondage is about pain. It's not. Or humiliation. It's not. Or submission. It's not. It's about heightened sensation. Here's why - when you're in bed (or wherever) making love, only half of your brain is focused on sensation. Feeling what the other person is doing to you. Feeling his fingers on your nipples. Feeling his cock sliding inside you. Only HALF your brain is feeling these things.

The other half of your brain is busily occupied with your performance. Am I caressing his balls too roughly? Am I licking him to quickly? What should I be doing now? What is he waiting for me to do? Where should I touch him next to rock his world?

When you're restrained the responsibility to make love to him is taken off your plate (until you tie him up and its YOUR turn on top!) You are free to use 100% of your brain to just FEEL his teeth nibbling your clit. Feel it with your whole body, mind and soul.

And when he has control, he is freer to bring you up and down the scale of sensation as he pleases. If he is skilled, he can bring you to the edge and keep you there as long as he wants. Or he can give you a quick series of fast, hard orgasms. Or he can give you a long hot oil massage while carefully avoiding your erogenous zones until you beg to be fucked.

I'll never walk through the hardware store without a smile on my face from now on.